Life experience that comes with age changes the behavior, expectations and way of experiencing love. People who are aware that life consists of ups and downs and it’s better to live life to the fullest rather than be a victim of their own fears, often assembled to do in later years.
The seemingly inexplicable behavior changes and our lifestyle often has to do with the fear of death and the manner of his treatment, and is good with the help of a professional person to work through what our culture is a taboo subject.
From previous experience psychological treatment depends on whether it will be love in the later years of experience as a gift of life, or be due to fear of change sabotage before the opportunity of true feelings. It is desirable but very difficult to draw lessons from their own mistakes and be open to new experiences.
I give a greater chance of a qualitative partnership of 35 to 60 years, because this period of life is called adult age, It is possible to be in these years but keep the behavior patterns characteristic of youth, which is why we are not mature enough in the partnership. If we have reached maturity, then we would certainly be more lenient, because it is not managed by a delusion that someone will change, but we are tolerant enough that we can accept and sometimes to suffer something we do not like in a partner. If a mature man estimates that something to him is unacceptable, he will give up a relationship than you will enter the mission of changing the other.
Mature individuals have established identity, knowing what they want and do not expect their partner to read their minds already know what to say, what they want and expect. They can tolerate frustration, clearly they have some skills, so that they are able to work and be creative. When two such mature individuals meet, they respect each other, they are aware that the success and maturity of which is the second scoring is not their merit, so there is no emotional blackmail, like “if it was not for me …” and what especially combines them the most, in addition to a similar view of the world, and sex appeal. Because sex life is much more mature in this period of life than in his youth, although often thought the opposite.
The essential difference between infatuation and love is that feeling of love based on idealization processes, while the real love relationship in which it is possible to feel all the emotions. When infatuation passes is a sign that we have ceased to idealize partners and to gradually enter into a real relationship. That relationship will take place only if we are willing to tolerate what we have noticed that bothered us. However, if these are features and processes that really stand out from our value system, we will probably leave that person.